Never Finding Love (via thoughtcatalog)

What if you peered into a fortune ball right now – this very second, today – and saw with indisputable clarity that you were never going to meet the love of your life?

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You’ve been hoping to meet “The One” for a while now – or at least someone half-decent who you can deal with for the rest of your life. I know, I know. You’re not fanciful like everyone else. You don’t believe in soul mates. But you were expecting to meet someone you liked a fair amount. We all hope that. We’re human.

Because here’s the thing about finding love – it affects us constantly. And we all loathe admitting it. But love is on the forefront of our actions even when it’s not on the forefront of our minds. It’s the reason you bought those new jeans last week.


Never finding love would be a game-changer for most of us. One we’d initially consider to be devastating but may eventually realize is the ultimate liberation. Without the fear of ending up alone, the opportunities open to you would become endless. You could live on every continent. You could go back to school and get that degree you’ve always felt interested in, without worrying about the financial burden your debt may place on somebody else. Love holds us back in an infinite amount of subtle ways that perhaps we do not even realize.


And the guarantee of its absence may just be the ultimate sense of liberation. Because if we didn’t have to search for the love of our lives, we would finally be free to realize that we are allowed to be the loves of our own.


That we can spend our lives developing ourselves, challenging ourselves, pampering ourselves and building ourselves up to be bigger, more capable people than we ever once hoped to become.


If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives.



(via thoughtcatalog)


PS A very interesting read. There's a lot to ponder about from this article.

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some really sweet swiss guy took this for us! while he was hiking alone, wts. I can't.

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Life After Love.

I've been meaning to address this for awhile. Anyway here goes nothing.

So I've broken up with my ex-boyfriend since a couple of months back. Why? As I've answered this to many different people. I realised there's a whole list of reasons why. But the main reason is simply because I can't see a future of us being together. I do or did love him. But to a certain extent. I've never allowed myself to fall 101% into someone. Neither have I fully trusted anyone. And so this is why I call it off. I need someone who I can trust whole-heartedly.

Post break-up life, definitely very liberating. In between there's some serious drama. But nothing I can't deal with. Guys these days really thinks girls are damn cheap huh. Now let me tell you, you can choose to do whatever you want. That is if you can handle the consequences. If you can, go ahead. Nonetheless, pretty damn disappointed with men these days.

Back to being single. I love it so much. The freedom. The control I have of myself means so much to me. I felt relief the moment I'm no longer tied down. It feels like I can do WHATEVER I want to. Feels pretty damn good. As much as I love hugs and kisses and everything having a boyfriend entitles me to have, right now I just have to figure out myself. What I want from my other half.

I can support myself. Fully independent. But I need someone who can make me feel safe and secure among other things. So yes, meanwhile I'm gonna keep traveling. Figuring out who exactly I am. I don't care if I take 1 year, 10 years or 20 years. Who cares. I don't.